Fourth Estate Please Yourself: How to Stop People-Pleasing and Transform the Way You Live

Please Yourself: How to Stop People-Pleasing and Transform the Way You Live, published by Fourth Estate, looks at the ways people-pleasing can show up in everyday life. It starts from the idea that most people, even those who would not describe themselves that way, recognise the urge to be liked at work, at home, or in relationships. The book focuses on what can happen when that desire leads to putting other people first at the expense of your own needs.

Psychotherapist Emma Reed Turrell sets out different “types” of people-pleaser and explains how these patterns can develop. She offers practical, reassuring guidance to help you notice people-pleasing behaviour as it begins, understand it more clearly, and learn how to stop it when it starts to affect your wellbeing. The aim is to support caring for others in a healthier way, while also taking better care of yourself.

Key details

• Publisher: Fourth Estate
• Author: Emma Reed Turrell
• Explores people-pleasing in work, home and relationships
• Describes different types of people-pleaser
• Includes practical, reassuring advice on changing people-pleasing behaviour

Synopsis

Many people recognise the pull to be liked, whether in professional settings, at home, or in close relationships. This book examines how that impulse can become a problem when it means ignoring your own needs.

Emma Reed Turrell explains different types of people-pleaser and offers guidance on understanding and stopping people-pleasing behaviour when it begins to affect you. It also considers how to care for others appropriately while improving the way you care for yourself.